When we think of domestic abuse, we often think of someone being physically beaten but verbal abuse happens just as often. Unlike physical abuse, the participants in the relationship may not realize they’re harming each other– they may even find some transgressions to be “normal”. Emotional abuse can happen between parent and child, romantic partners, among relatives and between friends.
In my therapy practice, I’ve worked with many people who are being emotionally and verbally abused. Many don’t realize they’re being abused and are hesitant to call what they’re experiencing abuse. However as we talk and process the behavior of the other person and how it makes them feel it’s as if a light bulb goes off and they realize that yes it’s abusive and no one should be treated this way.
If your answer is yes to these questions, you are most likely in an abusive relationship.
Does anyone regularly ridicule, dismiss, disregard your opinions, thoughts and feelings?
Does anyone make fun of you or put you down in front of others?
Does someone treat you as if you’re inferior to them?
Does someone make you feel that they are always right?
Does someone call you names and label you?
Do they blame you for their problems or unhappiness?
If you ever feel that you’re being emotionally or verbally abused, seeing a therapist may be very helpful for you. Therapy can help you to understand the impact of an emotionally abusive relationship. It can also help you to learn healthier ways of relating to others and caring for your own needs. Remember no one deserves to be abused.