Importance of Friends

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Friendships  have a major impact on your health and well-being, however it’s not always easy to build or maintain friendships.

What are the benefits of friendships?

Friends can help you celebrate good times and provide support during bad times. Friends also help you feel less lonely.

Friends can also:

  • Increase your sense of belonging and purpose
  • Boost your happiness and reduce your stress
  • Improve your self-confidence and self-worth
  • Help you cope with traumas, such as divorce, serious illness, job loss or the death of a loved one.

Why is it sometimes hard to make friends or maintain friendships?

Sometimes as adults it’s  hard to develop new friendships or keep existing friendships because of increased responsibilities,   moving away or just having a busy life.   Developing and maintaining good friendships does take some  effort.   Remember even though it may take effort the comfort of having good friends is worth it.

What are some ways to meet new people?

  • At social gatherings
  • At work
  • At classes
  • On social media

In order to meet new people, you have to go to places where others are gathered.   The more activities you participate in, the more likely you are to meet people.  Remember you may not become friends with everyone you meet,  but don’t give up.

How can I nurture my friendships?

 

  • Be kind.  Think of friendship as an emotional bank account. Every act of kindness is a deposit into this account, while criticism and negativity take away from the account.
  • Listen. Ask what’s going on in your friends’ lives. Let the other person know you are paying close attention  to them.  When friends discuss difficult experiences, be empathetic, and offer some comfort.
  • Be Open. Build friendships  by opening up about yourself. Being willing to disclose personal experiences and concerns  deepens your connection.
  • Show that you can be trusted. Being reliable and dependable is important in strong friendships. Follow through on plans you’ve made with your friends.
  • Make yourself available.Make an effort to see and talk to your  friends regularly, and to check in with them.

Remember, it’s never too late to build new friendships or reconnect with old friends. Taking time  to make new  friends and strengthening your old  friendships  pays off in having  a brighter outlook for years to come.

Should You Be Friends with Your Co workers?

 

 

 

 

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It used to be considered a bad idea to become friends with your co workers however today with the growth of social media , our personal and work lives tend to blend together more than in the past.  We often connect with co workers on Facebook, Instagram and LinkedIn soon after meeting and this will draw them more into our lives.

Of course being friends on social media with co workers has some drawbacks.  For example, should you post about hating your job if you have coworkers as Facebook friends?   And do you let your friend, who is also a colleague, know you weren’t really sick last Friday and went shopping instead of coming into the office?  You can hide some posts on social media so that’s a good option if you don’t want co workers to know everything going on with you.

A Gallup poll discovered people who identify having a best friend at work are  happier on the job. These people also rank high in overall job satisfaction. They tend to be more productive  and more loyal to their employer, and also get  sick less often.   The poll’s results suggest, spending time during your lunch break with colleagues  and meeting up with coworkers on the weekend can benefit you professionally as well as personally.

Here are some strategies for how to interact at work that allow you to spend quality time with coworkers while maintaining a good reputation:

  1. Take note of the office culture. Identify what attributes are valued among team members and how they communicate with one another. This will help you establish how you fit into the team and how to communicate with them.  This will give you a  a better idea of whether or not  your coworkers seem like people with whom you’d like to spend time outside of work.
  2. Avoid talking about other coworkers.  To avoid creating an awkward situation when a coworker is gossiping, you can reply with something like, “I don’t know, since I haven’t talked with her much.”

If you’re a manager or supervisor, you have a few extra things to consider.

  1. If you supervise people who are friends outside of work, make sure you never share information about other coworkers. What is workplace gossip to colleagues of an equal level is generally a violation of privacy for managers.
  2. Don’t try to cover things up. In most situations, honesty is the best policy. Tell your own supervisor if one of the employees you supervise is a friend and ask them to keep you accountable regarding fair treatment. While it’s not something you need to send a company email announcing, you  should acknowledge the friendship among your team if it comes up.

It may sometimes be  more difficult to navigate work and life when they intersect, however having friends at work can make you feel happier about going  to the office and it creates a culture of support when work gets complicated and life gets difficult.